This Valentine’s Day, I have every intention of being stoned, relaxed, and in the mood for good sex. Don’t get me wrong, being high isn’t a prerequisite to having fun in bed. But, in my experience, weed definitely helps me enjoy it.
Typically, when I’m going about my day-to-day, my head is swimming with an endless cacophony of thoughts. What’s on my to-do list? When’s my next meeting? Am I ready for tomorrow? And unfortunately, being unable to focus on the here and now is not a recipe for good sex. The last thing I want to be thinking about while I’m with an enthusiastic sex partner is if I’ve filed my taxes yet.
Cannabis helps my mind slow down and settle into my body. Just a couple of hits before hitting the sheets, and I find myself mellower, looser, and far more present.
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No matter who I’m with, it adds a little more to the experience. I notice the glint in her eyes as she winds her fingers through my hair. I notice the way his muscles go taut as he grabs onto my hips. I notice the sounds of primal moans and breathy exhales or the deep bass of the music we’re listening to. I notice the way my bare skin feels tingly and electric as it rubs against theirs and how good it actually feels to be touched. I notice the connection.
There’s an extra layer of mental vulnerability that goes into getting high and getting freaky with someone. Cannabis seems to make everything feel more raw, more sensitive, and more intense. Every touch is heightened, and even eye contact seems more profound.
This isn’t a dance I’d do with just anybody. And it’s not something I’d enjoy with a one-night stand because when we look into each other’s eyes and realize there’s a whole universe inside them, I want to really know the person I’m also allowing inside me.
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In the BDSM community, they preach ‘safe, sane, and consensual.’ And even though I may enjoy the occasional paddle to my ass, I’m going to make sure it’s in a safe environment where everyone is of sound mind and fully consenting.
I bring this energy to stoned sex too, exactly because of weed’s ability to make things feel more vulnerable. If I’m getting high and naked with someone, it’s because I trust them, and I know they’re going to listen to my yes and my no.
I know that when I’m letting go of my thoughts and trying to feel every single sensation happening in the present moment, my partner(s) will be right there with me, riding that high and maybe rocking their own.
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And, of course, cannabis is definitely a great choice for the physical side of sex, too. Weed is a good way to get the party started during foreplay due to its tried-and-tested power as an aphrodisiac.Topicals help you prep to bottom and relax enough to let your partner in, and taking a hit of flower makes a great timeout in the middle of an hours-long, mutual cunnilingus session. It’s all about who you’re with and how deep you’re willing to go with one another.
Just don’t forget the mental side that goes along with having stoned sex, because that’s a huge part of what makes the experience so profoundly unique and special. Put it all together, and it makes for a damn good time, thanks to some damn good weed.
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The number of strains in our database that contain sexy puns would blow your mind, Leafly Nation. But it makes sense—cannabis and the erotic have gone together since time immemorial, just consult the Chinese medical texts that cite it as an aphrodisiac, the Reefer Madness films that paint it as a sinful stimulant, and the latest chapter of research that indicates cannabis use leads to a high rate of satisfaction.
The orgasm gap between men and women remains, with a recent study in the academic journal Sexual Medicine indicating women orgasm far less than men throughout their lives. We think that’s absolutely tragic. Smoking and ingesting cannabis has shown to increase desire and satisfaction across gender and age groups, but not everyone wants to, or can, light up before knocking boots. A cannabis- or hemp-infused lubricant, however, can help deliver site-specific effects of tingling, warming, moisture and increased sensitivity due to vasodilation.
We found the best weed lubes on the market right now, with a range of formulations and potencies to suit any position, proclivity, and passion.
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Best weed lubes—THC-infused
These lubricants contain THC, and most are formulated for safe ingestion as well as topical use—just be mindful that ingesting THC may impact a drug test. Since cannabis is still a Schedule I substance, you can only buy these lubes in certain states. Most are California exclusives, with a couple in Oregon, Arizona, and Maryland. Maybe you need to plan a Valentine’s Day trip to pick some up.
Autumn Brands Passion Primer Intimate Serum
(Courtesy Autumn Brands)
Autumn Brands’ Now Melt brand was designed as a self-care line of products that encourage us to slow down and melt into the moment—and sensual self-care is part of that. Their Passion Primer serum is an aloe-based gel that creates moisture while the 200 mg THC increases sensitivity. No oil in the formula means it’s latex compatible, but avoid using it rectally. (California)
Curio Oh! Intimacy Oil
(Courtesy Curio)
Curio, Curio, wherefore art thine orgasms, Curio? The Maryland-founded, now interstate cannabis company does just about everything well: flower, edibles, vapes, and medicinal products like capsules and tinctures. Their Oh! oil proves they understand what their consumers want—a decadent, THC oil that’s a feast for the senses. Oh! has a coconut oil and shea butter base, with the addition of THC, a few botanicals, and essential oils. We recommend patch testing in case of reaction for anyone with sensitive skin. (Maryland)
Proof Cannabis Lube
(Courtesy Proof)
Proof Cannabis does high potency well—high dose tinctures, capsules, and topicals. Their new lubricant, called “orgasm oil,” is also potent, with 300 mg each of THC and CBD. As an oil, it’s not latex-safe, and the base of grape seed oil makes for a lighter, less greasy finish than other products that use butters or thicker oils like coconut. (California)
Lavinia oh.hi silicone lubricant
(Courtesy Lavinia)
We interviewed Lavinia’s founder Katie Enright back in 2023, when she was launching her unique, silicone-based cannabis lubricant. Enright wanted to be a nun, before she found the gospel of cannabis, and her congregation is now one of pleasure seekers. Using silicone instead of water or oil means high efficacy and applicability—just remember to cleanse after use. Her product has expanded to include an applicator for deeper, more precise distribution, and a line of “Kinky Bites” and “Goodnight Kiss” infused gummies formulated to eat before and after all kinds of horizontal tangos. (California)
Liquid Flower Day and Night lubricant
(Courtesy Liquid Flower)
Speaking of the best weed lubes—Liquid Flower has won Emerald Cup awards for their topicals that target muscle soreness, and their Day and Night Lubricant brings that same sensibility to your erogenous zones. Liquid Flower recommends applying the lubricant at least 15 minutes before getting down to business for the full effects of warming, increased circulation and heightened pleasure. This is a shea butter-based lubricant, with plenty of oils like rosehip and coconut thrown in, so it’s not compatible with condoms. It also contains essential oils for fragrance, so we recommend patch testing before use to avoid any irritation. (California)
Luminous Botanicals Dew Sensual Oil
(Courtesy Luminous Botanicals)
Luminous Botanicals sheds a light on the lack of pleasure in our lives, and how to seek it out. Their Dew line has two formulas, Pleasure and Comfort, depending on your needs—Pleasure is THC dominant whereas Comfort is a 1:1 blend, and each contains 250 mg total cannabinoids. The spray bottle packaging allows for precise or liberal application. (Oregon)
Kush Queen lubricant
(Courtesy Kush Queen)
What can we say that hasn’t been said? Kush Queen was one of the first cannabis brands to release a lubricant, and they’ve endured with a range of products that includes bath bombs, gummies, scrubs, and topicals. They offer both a THC lube and a CBD lube, both water-based, so you can choose your own adventure or play with both. While some products are only available in California, you can order non-THC products directly from the Kush Queen website. (California)
High Desert Pure Massage Oil
(Courtesy High Desert Pure)
Call it a happy-ending massage. High Desert Pure’s massage oil pulls double duty as a post-workout massage aid (or any time you feel sore), and an intimate massage emphasizer. With 800 mg total of THC and CBD, a little goes a long way. This is fragrance-free with a coconut oil base, so it’s safe for sensitive skin. (Oregon)
Sublime Stoney Yoni oil
Sublime keeps their topical oil, meant to “get your vagina stoned,” very simple—just coconut oil and cannabis oil, with 160 mg THC. This straightforward formula means it can multitask as a massage oil or be used to spike sensitivity on other parts of the body, like the chest, back, and other erogenous zones. (Arizona)
Best weed lubes—CBD and hemp
These lubricants forgo THC, so you can buy them just about anywhere within the US.
Blow by Bawdy
(Courtesy Bawdy)
Bawdy indeed—these oils cut right to the chase. Bawdy’s ethos combines cannabinoids and sexual charge, and their three oil-based lubricants complement the spectrum of arousal. Blow, perhaps obviously, formulated for, ahem, oral use, with 500 mg CBD and 100 mg CBG. Royal Blow and Astro Blow can be used all over the body, and you can even use them together.
Toca Toto oil
Toca means touch in Spanish, and the founders of Toca want you to touch all over, as much as you want. Toto is the vulva formulation, while their Qulo works better for the back door. Both use CBD to help decrease inflammation and lubricate erogenous zones in the body. Just remember, you can’t use them with condoms.
Quanna Oomf CBD lube
This water-based lubricant puts, literally, a little oomf in your bedroom routine. There’s no oil in this water-based formula to ruin condoms or toys, and they provide third-party testing. No THC in this one, but you’ll still get CBD’s anti-inflammatory and soothing properties so prep you for any kind of sensual situation.
Quim Smooth Operator
Quim (we’ll let you look up what that means) has been around for years with a singular purpose—to give your nethers the best experience possible. Their Smooth Operator (water-based) is their topical serum targeted at sexual satisfaction, while Happy Clam (oil-based) is like skincare. Both products now exclusively use CBD, but the results speak for themselves—big O’s all around.
Skinny Hippie Weed Lube
Finally, a water-based option! Skinny Hippie’s Happy Endings lube uses another plant, aloe vera, as the base, with a minimal ingredients list and no fragrance. With 100 mg each of THC and CBD for increased blood flow and relaxation, the brand recommends only a couple drops at a time. This is a hemp-derived formulation, and is third-party tested to ensure accurate and uncontaminated ingredients. Skinny Hippie also offers an oil-based version, suppositories, and CBD-only formulas.
And that’s a tour through the best weed lubes on the market these days.
How CBD-enhanced lubricants help encourage intimacy.
Everyone deserves to have the best sex possible, and incorporating cannabis to make climbing the mountain even more pleasurable is a time-honored tradition for weed enthusiasts everywhere.
Whether that’s sharing a joint with a partner before getting busy, enjoying a low-potency edible to put you in the mood, or experimenting with a specialized CBD product like the ones from HARU, sex and cannabis go together like chocolate and strawberries.
HARU provides a line of female-forward sexual intimacy products that use CBD to heighten the natural rhythms of sexual encounters for a more fulfilling sex life. Vegan, glycerin-free, and paraben-free, HARU’s pleasure products are dripping with benefits.
HARU has been a trusted source of sexual wellness products in Asia for years and recently made the decision to focus exclusively on products infused with CBD. These new plant-powered formulas are the first from the brand to be available on the US market.
HARU’s products are meant for intensifying sex alone or with a partner—or partners! Plus, they’ve taken care to ensure that people of all orientations, preferences, and kinks feel catered to. HARU’s mission is to make people across the globe feel more confident and happy with their sex lives because everyone has a right to satisfying, healthy sex.
Looking at their new CBD-forward offerings, HARU products are some of the best around for helping you get there.
First, we’ll skip the foreplay and get straight to the good stuff by introducing you to HARU’s two new tantalizing products—the THRILL Sex Drop and INSATIATE Intimacy Warming Oil. Then, we’ll take a little more time to show you how HARU uses CBD’s distinctive attributes to create items that will make your future sexual experience even more mind-blowing.
INSATIATE Intimacy Warming Oil
Courtesy of HARU
A few drops from this jar of nectar are all you need to turn something forgettable into an experience that leaves you breathless. Made from the finest of all-natural ingredients and boosted with 200mg of CBD, the INSATIATE oil from HARU is a must-have for any bedside table.
After applying one or two drops, you’ll be greeted by a warm, glowing sensation in addition to the aphrodisiac and relaxing effects of CBD, perfect for foreplay or to turn up the temp on the main event. INSATIATE creates a silky glide that amplifies the body’s natural wetness, making for a smooth and stimulating experience that’s a recipe for bigger, better orgasms.
THRILL Sex Drop
Courtesy of HARU
Packing a craveable combination of icy and warm, the THRILL sex drop from HARU is a heavenly topical that certainly lives up to its name. After applying directly to you or your partner’s intimate parts or sex toy of preference, the THRILL sex drop’s special formula will create a warming, tingling sensation that’s also just a touch icy.
This toe-curling contrast is made for heightened sensitivity and stronger orgasms, just right for a romantic evening with a partner or a night in (with) yourself. THRILL is also infused with 200mg of high-quality, full-spectrum CBD, so relax, lie back, and let HARU THRILL you.
CBD is for lovers
We know cannabis is a general-purpose good times enhancer, so it stands to reason that adding a bit of green to your sex life can make a good thing even more delicious. In fact, human beings have used cannabis for its aphrodisiac properties for thousands of years, and some strains even excel at inducing desire and heightening sensitivity.
Courtesy of HARU and @highgenevievee
A little bit of THC, CBD, or a combination of the two can also work to reduce distracting errant thoughts and help you focus on pleasing your partner or yourself. Best of all? A recent study has shown that using cannabis before a sexual encounter results in female orgasms that are stronger, more frequent, and easier to achieve.
When the team at HARU began looking into ways to bring their already fantastic sexual wellness products to the next level, thoughtful research drew them to cannabinoids like CBD.
By applying HARU’s CBD-infused products directly to intimate areas, you’ll get all the benefits of the plant in a way that flows naturally within a sexual experience. The alluring aroma and the warm, tantalizing sensations produced by HARU’s products mix perfectly with the natural powers of CBD to create a truly earth-shaking experience.
Better sex, coming right up
HARU deeply believes that everyone deserves meaningful intimacy, and the products they offer all serve to further that goal. The team at HARU encourages women all over the world to take control of their sexual agency through advocacy for sexual wellness and an end to the stigma around sex. By enhancing their products with CBD, HARU has further refined its line of personal intimacy oils and massage oils to ensure that even more people can feel more satisfied with their sex lives.
Courtesy of HARU and @jolenegoring
HARU’s products are made exclusively with organically grown hemp CBD, meaning there aren’t any psychoactive cannabinoids, like THC, included. That means you can grab HARU for a pre-work quickie and not worry about carrying a buzz around in addition to your afterglow.
Many of HARU’s products are safe to use with sex toys, and many are also safe to use with oral sex— be sure to check the description and label to confirm the product you’re choosing is designed for your desires.
However you like to have sex, HARU is here to bring the fireworks.
Feeling tempted? Head over to HARU’s website to browse their whole line of products, read FAQs, and dive into their blog. Plus, shop with an exclusive 15% off discount, using promo code LEAFLY15 at checkout. You can follow HARU on Instagram to keep up to date with anything new they might have in store and learn all about the positives of a happy, healthy sex life.